To love yourself…. you have to accept yourself.
This is a lesson I thought I mastered many years ago but, lately I’ve realized that this is a life long journey.
As we grow, things in our lives change. Some of these changes are for the better…. Some not so much.
The idea is to accept yourself as you are and love that version of yourself.
Once the love is there, you can begin making adjustments.
I think a lot of the time, we are so busy trying to become the “best version” of ourselves that we forget to be kind to ourselves.
If you’re always chasing some “other” version of yourself and you never take the time to accept and love who you are in this moment….. How will you know if the version of yourself you are pursuing is even compatible with who you came here to be?
The pictures at the top of this post show how this lesson is being lived out in my life.
For years, I was chasing the “serious professional” image. In pursuit of that, I was neglecting those parts of me that love being outdoors, working with my hands, & interacting with farm animals.
I shoved that part of me to the side for over a decade. Why? I was worried about how people would perceive me. I didn’t want people to think I was country or without ambition.
The reality is, I was robbing myself of something I love…… Something that, thanks to my parents, is something I am good at and have the instincts for.
The lesson: Farmer Bash, Bash the Intellectual, and Smooth/Laid Back Bash are all VALID manifestations of different aspects of ME.
In heavily focusing on what I thought was expected of me & worrying about the opinions of others. I spent many years living in misery and searching for what was in plain sight.
I invite you to learn from my mistakes.
Start spending some time with YOU. Even if there are things about yourself that you don’t like, make the effort to accept yourself and love yourself as you are.
From there, you can begin working toward a better version of yourself. Not from a place of wanting to please others or keep up appearances…. But from a place of love.
You deserve it. 😎