I’ve mastered many things in my life but self love ain’t among them. For most of my life I learned to be a chameleon for my own safety and the real me got lost in the process.
Now that I’m at a place in my life where I can live out loud, I sometimes struggle with being kind to ME. Working on my manuscript has brought me face to face with my need for some good loving from myself. That can be tough but I’ve decided to be intentional about it.
To start, I’ve dusted off my dreams and interests. I’ve made some needed investments in those things that bring me joy like dystopian novels, strong coffee, time alone, motivational lectures, etc. It’s necessary.
Those of us who are called to bring light into darkness and speak truth to power must first learn to heal ourselves. We must learn to accept ourselves. We must be comfortable with loving on ourselves. We must do this in the face of the many years of programming which told us that who we are is evil and disgusting in the eyes of the creator. We must do this even when relatives and friends walk away. We must do this so that those whose lives we are called to touch can be impacted positively because our service will come from a place of healing and not a place of bitterness.
Love on yourself. It’s okay.
Love on yourself. It’s necessary.
Love on yourself until you understand that you are worthy of unconditional love just because you exist.
I love you.
Your lived experience is valid.
You are worthy of love.
You are under no obligation to apologize for who you are.
I love you.
I say to you, on this sunny day, that you are enough.
Your experience is valid.
You’re not obligated to consent to being perpetually disrespected.
This world does not own you.
It does not get to stomp out your light or silence your voice without consequence.
You are worthy of love.
You are worthy of respect.
You are worthy of honor.
I honor you.
I honor the deposit of the inexplicable that lies within.
I honor the god in you.
You don’t have to earn this honor.
It’s your birthright.
It belongs to you.
#lgbt #empowerment #honor #god #goddess
It’s that time of year again. Many of you may find yourselves in situations where you are not able to be your true self. You may have relatives who reject you because of who you are or who you love.
This can be tough. It can have negative impacts on your mental health.
Know that you are not the problem. You have the right to stay away from gatherings that are going to trigger you.
Love yourself enough to do what’s best for YOU this holiday season.
I don’t know what your journey looks like. I’m not sure if you’re out or closeted… medically transitioning or not. I don’t know your name or what you enjoy. There are many things that I do not know. I won’t pretend to. But I do know that you are worthy of love.
Your status as a transgender person does not take that away.
I know that there are those who may say things which make you question the value of your very life. Harsh words may be thrown at you and violence may be something you encounter. I wish it were not so… but I know that these things happen. The fact that they happen is not an indication that your inherent worth as a person is somehow less than that of anyone else. It speaks to the state of a wicked society which would allow anyone to believe that mistreating you is okay. It speaks to the condition of the heart of those who reject you. It does not say anything about you.
You are worthy of love. The way you experience life is valid. You have just as much of a right to live out loud as anyone else. I may not know you personally but you are my sibling. I love you. I’m rooting for you. And I will keep writing to you here so that, for a few moments, you will know that someone is carrying you in their heart.
With all of my heart,